女士们先生们，妇女节时我们曾发布文章：4种展现绅士风度的行为名媛绅士礼仪第三期：妇女节快乐！男士们四种展现绅士风度的行为。今天我们将继续探讨另外7种表达对女士们尊重的绅士行为。真正的绅士必定有着良好的教养！
Dear ladies and gentlemen, for women’s day we have published the 4 chivalrous gestures gentlemen may accomplish towards women, to remind them how important they are. Today we finish the sequence with 7 new gestures. Manners are still making the man!
下面哪些属于非常绅士的行为？ 多选
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走路时牵着女士的手
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走路时让她挽着胳膊
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让女士走在靠近街道的一侧
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男士走在靠近街道的一侧
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在女士身后为她关上门
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用餐时，时刻帮女士布菜
1. 走在靠近街道的一侧
Walk on the side closes to the traffic
建议：男士和女士并排而行时，建议男士走在女士的外侧，也就是靠近街道的一侧。一方面为了女士们的安全考虑，另一方面也可以为女士们挡住来自街道的尘土或来往车辆溅起的水花。
Do: When walking, the gentleman makes sure to walk on the outside, closer to the road than her. This shows that her safety is important. It also protects the lady from the dust and the cars splashing the puddles.
避免：除特殊原因外，走路时不要一直将女士丢在身后。这是对女士不尊重的表现，同时也会增加双方距离感。另外需要注意，某些路段可能并不适合穿着高跟鞋走路的女士。
Don’t: When walking, don’t walk ahead of her unless there’s truly a good reason. It’s disrespectful and feels emotionally closed off. Also, be aware that if she is wearing heels, there are just some places which she will not be able to walk.
2. 伸出手臂让女士挽住
Give her your arm while walking
建议：非常传统而且经典的动作。伸出手臂，让女士们可以挽住。这个行为可能有些过时，但却很好地展现对女士的关爱和尊重。较为正式的晚宴，正式庆典或仅仅是散步时，男士们都可以伸出手臂让女士挽住。
Do: giving the arm to a lady while walking is a very traditional gesture showing affection and courtesy to a woman, even if slightly old-fashioned today. Although, it is still applicable when arriving to formal events such as galas, ceremonies, or just for a having a walk.
避免：伸出自己的左手臂而非右手臂。因为女士们可能更习惯使用自己的右手挽住别人。当然这完全要根据女士们的习惯而决定。（如果女士惯用左手，那么男士应伸出右手臂）
Don’t: Give her your left arm, and not the right. Why? Because it is more convenient for her to use her right arm. Of course, if she’s left handed you may change.
3. 在餐盘较重时为她提供帮助
Serve her at the table if the platters or bottles are too heavy
建议：晚宴时，有些食物放在大而重盘子里，女士们端起盘子取用非常不方便。这时男士可以在旁帮女士端着盘子，或直接询问她们的需求为她们布菜。另外，如果女士有需要喝酒，男士需为女士倒酒。
Do: At a dinner some dishes may be served in large platters which may become very heavy then. It would be appreciated from a gentleman to hold these platters for her while she helps herself, or to serve her. Likewise, for the wine, the gentleman shall serve the lady.
避免：注意不要把女士当成小孩子，也不要把自己当成服务员。不必每道菜或饮料都要帮助女士，帮助仅限于那些比较重的盘子等。
Don’t: She is not a baby and you are not a waiter, you shall not do it for every dish or beverage. Only the heavy ones.
4. 为女士披上外套
He offers her his jacket
建议：这是最暖心的绅士行为之一。当女士们的肢体动作或直接言语表示出很冷，那么男士们可以将外套脱下，披在女士身上，表明对女士们的关心。
Do: One of the cutest acts of chivalry possible. When she starts to shiver, begins rubbing her arms, or mentions how chilly it is outside, the gentleman just take it off and help her into it. It reveals to her that her comfort is important to for him.
避免：如果男士们也感觉很冷，并不代表男士们必须要将外套脱下让给女士，独自忍受寒冷。男士们可以将女士们拉近，用自己的外套同时护住女士，让她觉得暖和些。
Don’t: Now, if you’re also cold, that doesn’t mean that you should freeze just to give your partner your jacket. Instead, just draw her in and keep her warm!
5. 为女士准备早餐
Bring breakfast for her wake-up
建议：准备好早餐，整齐摆放在托盘上，旁边再配上鲜花，然后将早餐送到床边。这样一来，女士们甚至不用起床可以享受美好一餐。此时男士当然可以加入，与女士共享温馨浪漫的一刻，开始美好的一天！
Do: The gentleman brings the complete breakfast in bed, on a well-arrangement tray with a flower. The lady doesn’t even have to leave the bed, and you can spend a warm moment together. Such a great start for the day!
避免：不必每天或每周末都要这样做。这种浪漫可以只留给特殊的日子。
Don’t: Of course it cannot be expected every day or even every week-end. To keep the romance, it should remain exceptional.
6. 陪她等车和送她回家
Wait with her and walk her home
建议：陪送女伴，女朋友等任何女士是非常绅士的行为，避免她单独成行。或者至少，男士应该一直陪着女士，直到她叫到出租车或司机接到她。
Do: Walking a date, girlfriend, or any woman is a fantastic chivalrous gesture from a gentleman, it would avoid her an uncomfortable moment alone. At least, he should wait with her for her taxi or driver to pick her up, keeping her in a nice company until the end.
避免：送女士回家应当是出于体贴和尊重，而不应该别有用心。这是一项非常体贴的绅士行为。
Don’t: Walk her home out of respect and thoughtfulness, without expecting any particular rewards or invitation. It is an altruistic, chivalrous gesture.
7. 为她开门
Hold the door for her
建议：这个行为不仅对女士适用，对其他人也可以：当您需要进入或离开一间屋子，推开门后最好再继续为后面的人撑着门，对方一定会向您表示感谢。
Do: This is applicable with ladies, but also with anybody: you are entering/leaving a room by pushing a door, simply hold it for avoiding it to fall on the person behind you, which shall thank you for this.
避免：您并不是门童。所以只要帮后面的人撑一下，等到对方自己扶着门就可以松开手，不必一直等到对方离开后再关上门。
Don’t: you are not the door person, simply hold it until he/she can hold too, no need to close it behind him/her.
以上是日常生活中常见的展现绅士风度的行为。欢迎各位给我们留言进行补充！
Here is the end of our articles regarding chivalrous gestures in your daily life. As always, you are more than welcome to leave us comments!
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