No comparison 你在跟谁比？没有对比就没有伤。
Who to compare？nowadays we're living in the word，that we cannot stop in the word，我们生活在一个不停地。
comparing ourselves with other people and 跟别人对比的世界。
back then we used to compare ourselves with 之前是你只需要跟你自己。other people like who are around us and is exhausting enough，已经很让人筋疲力尽了。
but nowadays we're comparing ourselves with people are so far away from from us 跟离我们很远的人一起比较。
let's see Elon mask or Jack ma 比如说埃隆马斯克马云，or like great 还有那些entrepreneurs or greatest 台盆 and great 伟大的企业家名人。
famous online influencers 网红，it's really tiring to 这种比较真的。think in this way 让人力不从心；information is so accessible we're able to 信息是真的触手可及。uh reach all the people who are around us，我们可以联系到每个人。you know we see the charming handsome uh，你能看到这个魅力十足帅气的。even successful young guy 有成功的年轻小伙子，and we're seeing this fancy car and fancy houses and Villas and we see this glamours dress 看得见 高贵的华服，dresses华服，everyone else looks perfect or flawless，每个人都是看起来完美无暇。it could be 幽谷 sometimes or it could be also ， ye he are he me l 有时候可能会有些伤害。um a drive to get you to where you want you know that 变成让你向前的驱动力。I think I do put a lot of pressure on myself 我觉得我给自己很大的压力。and sometimes I had to compare，有时候我在跟myself with people like great entrepreneurs like 那些伟大的企业家对比。jagma or domino if you know that and 马云董明珠，or Elon mask or the great 埃隆马斯克等等。like Bill Gates or greatest scientists，还有比尔盖茨伟大的科学家。other people who are really successful 还有非常成功的人。and I know I'm really too far from them，我知道我离他们真的太远了。but you know this comparison would one two 栀子 pod that at the same time，我又给自己太多的工作量。and yeah it could be really hurtful，很有可能有些伤害。
so I would take a break from this thought 然后我会暂停一下。and then I started 阵发性 myself 会把自己跟with people like my peers 同龄人比一下。and I don't see myself as 觉得自己也不是。
ourselves um，我想的那么糟糕，所以不能在把自己跟。with people who are really farand is uh unreachable 分别 be idol 他们当然也可以是偶像。
像灯塔一下。shining far away and guiding us all the time，照亮并指引我们。but that doesn't mean that we have to become them，但是不是说必须成为他们。and sometimes we need to accept，who we really are，我们得接受我们自己。and accept our nature，接纳自己的天性。for instance you could be a mediocre，比如你是一个普通人。it's fine like you can just like go to work from 95，没关系你可以朝九晚五，也没关系。and you could work really hard to fight for your career，你可以全力以赴奋斗事业。and you can keep studying or fighting and 你也可以一直学习。for your own dream and st ill that's fine，为梦想拼搏依然没有任何问题。and also you can get married and be a housewife，你可以结婚做全职家庭主妇。or be a house husband 或者全职主夫。but it's allabout your nature like who you want be 真的是关于你自己的天性你想成为什么人。not in this comparison and if this comparison drives you forward，如果这种对比让你去持续向前。it drives you faster 让你跑的更快。then yeah stick with it and keep it that doing that，那就坚持继续这么做。and if this drive sometimes，如果这个动力有时候，exhausts you and tires you 让你无所适从神疲力竭，and then I think you should stop and consider that，那我个人认为你需要暂停一下重新考虑。what is your own lifestyle，你自己的生活方式。what do you actually want in your heart，你内心到底想要什么？what makes you happy and yeah it's about finding，真的是关于找到。what your nature is and accept it and follow it，你的天性接纳他追随它。of course along the way you have to keep studying for instance you know how to discover and 排水 more，这样你才能探索发现更多的可能性。so keep learning，never stop learning。
