Well hey there I'm Emma from mmmEnglish. Today we're going to talk about what to say in awkward situations, you know those times when you just can't think of what to say because it's kind of uncomfortable?，下面我们就来聊聊关于避免出错如何表达?接下来我们就一起去了解一下吧!
避免出错如何表达
Well hey there I'm Emma from mmmEnglish. Today we're going to talk about what to say in awkward situations, you know those times when you just can't think of what to say because it's kind of uncomfortable?
大家好，我是 Emma，欢迎来到美味英语频道。今天我们要聊聊在尴尬的情况下该说些什么，就是那些因为这种情况有点令人不适而想不出说什么的时刻。
This is part one in a whole series on this topic and we're gonna focus on relationships with people who are close to us. You know how do you respond when someone's lost a loved one?
这是关于这个主题的整个系列的第一部分，我们将侧重于与我们亲近的人的人际关系。当有人失去亲人时，你知道如何回应吗？
What do you say? What do you say to a friend who wants to do something that you don't really want to do?
你会说什么呢？你会对一个想要做你并不真正想做的事情的朋友说些什么？
So I've got six of these awkward uncomfortable situations where sometimes we just don't know what to say. Now it's so important to pay attention to the words that I'm using but also to the tone, the pause and the facial expression that I'm using because all of these things are so important when we're communicating.
我准备了六种令人尴尬不适的情况，在这些情况下有时我们不知道该说什么。重要的是要注意我使用的词语，还要注意我使用的语气、停顿和面部表情，因为所有这些在我们交流时都非常重要。
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If you've got any special requests, drop them down in the comments below. So as I said, this is the relationships edition so I'm sharing useful English phrases that will help you in awkward and uncomfortable situations with the people who are closest to us in our lives.
如果你有任何特殊要求，请在下面的评论中提出哦。正如我所说，这是讨论关系的版本，所以我会分享一些有用的英语短语，这些短语可以帮助你与我们生活中最亲近的人在尴尬和不舒服的情况下交流。
Situation number one. Your boyfriend or your girlfriend breaks up with you.
第一种情况。你的男朋友或女朋友跟你分手了。
So imagine this, you're sitting at a restaurant. You're looking across the table at your partner, you're just about to have a lovely dinner at a busy restaurant.
想象一下，你坐在一家餐馆里面。你正看着桌子对面的伴侣，你已经准备好在这样一家生意红火的餐厅享用美味的晚餐了。
You reach down to take your glass and have a sip and you hear them say: Look, I just don't think this is working anymore.
你伸手拿起杯子喝了一口，你听到他们说：我觉得我们之间走不下去了。
I think we should break up. In any language, this is a difficult conversation to have, an uncomfortable conversation to have.
我觉得我们应该分手。用任何语言来说，这都是一场难以进行的对话，一场令人不舒服的对话。
And depending on how it makes you feel, your mind might go completely blank, maybe you saw it coming but perhaps it was a complete shock and maybe you're heartbroken. But whatever the case, you still need to respond in this moment, don't you?
取决于它带给你的感觉，你的大脑可能会完全空白，也许你已经预见到了这一天即将到来，但你感到非常震惊，也许你伤心欲绝。但无论如何，你还是需要在这一刻做出回应，对吧？
So firstly, you take a deep breath and you compose yourself. All right I can do this.
所以首先，深吸一口气，让自己冷静下来。好吧，我可以做到这一点。
Since it's probably quite upsetting in the moment, it might actually be hard to think about what to say and it's okay to take that long pause and to really think about what you're going to say before you blurt it out but here are a few things that you could say. Really?
由于此刻可能非常令人沮丧，所以其实可能很难思考要说什么，所以在你脱口而出之前，可以暂停一段时间，思考一下你要说的内容，但是有一些你可以说的事情的。真的吗？
That makes me so sad. I think it's best if I just leave and head home.
我好难过啊。我认为我最好还是离开回家吧。
Now this might sound like you've just given up but it's a really useful way of getting out of this situation because saying too much might make you angry or upset and if you just want to keep it simple, at least you'll be able to take some time to think about what you want to do and how you want to respond. Another option is:
这听起来像是你刚刚放弃，但确实是摆脱这种情况的一种非常有用的方法，因为说太多可能会让你生气或沮丧，如果你只是想让事情简单一点的话，至少你可以花一些时间思考你想做什么以及你想如何回应。另一种选择是：
I'm feeling really overwhelmed right now. Can we please talk about this again in a few days?
我现在感觉真的不知所措。我们能不能过几天再谈谈这个问题？
If you're the type of person who needs some time to process information, this is a good option for you because if there are thousands of thoughts flying around in your head, it's really hard to make sense of them in that one moment so giving yourself a little bit of time and the ability to come back to that conversation with some clearer thoughts is definitely a good option too. Okay uncomfortable situation number two is probably one of my favourites.
如果你是那种需要一些时间来处理信息的人，这对你来说是一个不错的选择，因为如果此刻你的脑海里有成千上万的想法，真的很难在很短的时间理解它们，所以给自己一点时间，并且能够带着一些更清晰的想法回到谈话中绝对是一个不错的选择。好的，第二个不舒服的情况可能是我的最爱之一。
The overstayed welcome. So you know when someone stays at your house longer than you want them to?
做客太久而不受欢迎。你知道当有人在你家里的时间比你希望的要长的这种情况吗？
They just won't leave, they can't take the hint. Maybe it's a relative who's been there for a few hours or maybe a boyfriend or a friend who has slept over for a few nights but you really like your own space.
他们就是不肯离开，他们接收不到暗示。也许是呆了几个小时的亲戚，或者是睡了几个晚上的男朋友或朋友，但你真的很想要自己的空间。
It's been four days now since you initially invited them over and there's no sign of them leaving, they're settled in. So in this situation you could definitely say:
从你最初邀请他们过来到现在已经四天了，他们完全没有要离开的迹象，他们已经安顿下来了。因此，在这种情况下，你肯定可以说：
You know what, I've got a few things to do around the house today, let's meet up again the day after tomorrow and do something fun. So when you're saying this, it's best to actually start performing those actions as you go rather than just sitting on the couch and telling them that you want them to leave.
你知道吗，我今天家里有一些事情要处理，让我们后天再见面，做些有趣的事情吧。因此，当你说这句话时，最好边走边开始行动，而不是坐在沙发上告诉他们你希望他们离开。
It helps to show them that you've got other things to do. So you could start washing the dishes, packing some clothes, anything that gets you moving and you know gives them the hint that you need to be using your own space to do some things that you've got to get done.
这有助于向他们表明你还有其他事情要做。你可以开始洗碗，收拾衣服，做任何能让你动起来的事情，暗示他们你需要利用自己的空间来做一些你必须要做的事情。
But it also tells them that you do want to see them again in a couple of days so no feelings hurt. Now if you want to be a little more direct, you could try saying:
但这也告诉他们，你希望在几天内再次见到他们，因此不会造成任何伤害。如果你想更直接一点的话，你可以试着说：
I love having you stay over but I also enjoy my own space. Do you think we could just limit sleepovers to two nights in a row?
我很想让你留下来，但我也喜欢我自己的空间。你觉得我们可以把连续过夜的时间限制在两晚吗？
This is a good one for a boyfriend or girlfriend who's staying over at your house a little more than you really want them to and you know you're like all right I really like you but I don't want you here all the time. I need my own space too.
对于在你家住的时间比你真正想要的时间多一点的男朋友或女朋友来说，这是一个很好的选择，你知道的，你真的很好，我真的很喜欢你，但我不希望你一直在这里。我也需要自己的空间。
Okay the third situation is your friend has cooked you a bad meal. Now food is subjective, isn't it?
好的，第三种情况是你的朋友给你做了一顿糟糕的饭。食物是主观的，对吧？
Some people like things sweet, salty, sour, it doesn't necessarily mean that the meal that your friend has cooked you is bad, though perhaps it is. Maybe it's just not to your taste.
有些人喜欢甜的、咸的、酸的，这并不一定意味着你朋友给你做的饭不好，尽管也许确实如此。也许只是不合你的口味。
So of course, keep this in mind when you're sharing feedback I guess, about the meal and you know make sure that the way that you are expressing yourself is always with a really clear, kind, gentle tone so that you don't hurt their feelings. Try not to be too blunt here.
所以当然了，当你分享关于这顿饭的反馈时，请记住这一点，一定要以一种非常清晰、善良、温和的语气来表达自己，这样你就不会伤害他们的感情。不要太生硬。
So you could say something like: I usually prefer something a little different, it's quite unusual for me, I'm not sure if I like it.
所以你可以这样说：我的口味不太一样，这对我来说有点过于与众不同了，我不确定我是不是喜欢它。
So with this response, you're letting them know that the meal wasn't to your taste. Maybe it's just because you prefer different things so no feelings hurt.
所以通过这个回应，你可以让他们知道这顿饭不合你的口味。也许只是因为你喜欢不同的东西，所以没有感情受到伤害。
You're still able to be honest. This was nice.
你还是可以很坦诚。这很好呀。
I know another recipe that was quite similar. Maybe I can cook it for you next time?
我知道另一个非常相似的食谱。下次我可以给你做一做？
So making plans to do another activity together is a good way to let them know that you still appreciate them and what they've done for you. You could also try and make it fun and helpful you know rather than patronising and sounding like:
因此，制定一起进行另一项活动的计划是让他们知道你仍然感谢他们以及他们为你所做的一切的非常好的方法。你也可以试着让它变得有趣一点，而不是屈尊俯就，听起来像：
My meal that I'm gonna cook you is so much better than yours, wait till you taste it. Try not to do that.
我要给你做的饭比你的可好吃多了，等着你尝尝试试。尽量不要那样做。
Okay so a friend of mine recently told me that a girl he was casually dating asked him to make their relationship more serious, more official. I guess she wanted to introduce him to her family but he is not interested at all.
好的，我的一个朋友最近告诉我，他偶然约会的一个女孩想让他们的关系更严肃、更正式。我猜她想把他介绍给她的家人，但他根本不感兴趣。
So what do you say in this situation when you don't want to go further in a relationship with someone? With these responses, a really firm direct tone is so important.
那么在这种情况下，当你不想与某人进一步建立关系时，你会说什么？要回应的话，坚定直接的语气是非常重要的。
There are so many non-verbal cues that you need to be aware of in a conversation like this where people are hinting at things rather than saying them directly so you've got to be alert, ready for this one. If it's a friend who's asking you to go out on a date with them but you're not really interested, you can definitely say something like:
在这样的对话中，你需要注意很多非语言的暗示，人们会暗示某件事情而不是直接说出来，所以你必须保持警惕，做好准备。如果是朋友邀请你和他们约会，但你并不感兴趣的话，你可以这样说：
I love our friendship and would just prefer to keep it this way. And of course if it's someone you've been seeing for a little while or a friend that you have feelings for who's asking you this question and you want to say yes, then of course simply say:
我喜欢我们的友谊，只是更愿意保持这种方式。当然，如果你已经和某个人约会了一段时间，或者是你对问你这个问题的人有感觉，你想说好的，那么可以简单地说：
Yeah of course, let's make it official. All right our next awkward uncomfortable situation is when your friend wants to do something with you that you don't want to do.
好的，当然了，让我们让关系变的正式吧。好吧，我们下一个尴尬的不舒服情况是当你的朋友想和你做一些你不想做的事情时。
Maybe your friend or your partner wants to go on a holiday somewhere but you don't really want to or they want to go skydiving and you're afraid of heights. Well you can let them know that although you don't want to do what they've suggested, you do still want to hang out with them.
也许你的朋友或你的伴侣想去某个地方度假，但你并不不是很想去，可能他们想去跳伞，而你却恐高。好的，你可以让他们知道，虽然你不想按照他们的建议去做，但你仍然想和他们一起出去玩。
I'm not really into that idea. What if we try this instead?
我不是很喜欢这个主意。我们试试这个怎么样呢？
This is the best answer because you're communicating your message really clearly but you're also suggesting an alternative for them and it helps them to know that you're not completely blowing them off right you still want to do something, just not that thing. Thanks for inviting me but I don't think I'll go and maybe then you can add on an excuse.
这是最好的答案，因为你确实清楚地传达了你的信息，但你也为他们提出了替代方案，这有助于让他们知道你并不是想要完全把他们吓跑，你还是想做什么事情，只是不是那件事情。谢谢你邀请我，但我不想去，也许你可以加上一个借口。
So expressing gratitude is a good way to show appreciation for the person who's thought of you and invited you, you don't want to hurt their feelings but you know me, I don't like to hurt people's feelings so making up a little excuse as to why you can't go even if it's not true is gonna soften the blow right? It's gonna make them feel less bad, less hurt.
所以表达谢意是向那些会为你考虑并邀请你的人表达感激之情的好方法，你不想伤害他们的感情，你了解我的，我不喜欢伤害别人的感情，所以编个小借口说一下为什么你不能去，即使这不是真的，也会缓解一下情况，对吧？这会让他们感觉不那么糟糕，不会受到那么多的伤害。
Thanks for inviting me but I don't think I'll go. I've got plans that weekend.
谢谢你邀请我，但我并不是很想去。我周末已经有计划了。
I'm supposed to be going camping. So our next and last situation is an extremely hard and sad, and uncomfortable situation but it happens and I wanted to help you with what you can say in a situation where you want to support a friend or a family member when someone tells you that they've lost a loved one, that someone that they care about that's close to them has passed away.
我要去露营。所以我们的下一个也是最后一个情况是一个非常艰难、非常悲伤和令人不舒服的情况，但它确实发生了，我想帮助大家了解在这种情况下该说什么，在这种情况下，你想为朋友或家人提供支持，他们告诉你他们失去了所爱之人，他们很爱的人，他们很亲近的人去世了。
This is devastating, it's always hard to know what to say. You feel quite helpless because nothing that you say is gonna change their feelings or make their pain go away.
这是毁灭性的打击，很难知道该说什么。你感到很无助，因为你说什么都不会改变他们的感受，或让他们的痛苦消失。
But being supportive and listening is so important, the goal isn't to make them feel better, it's just to let them know that you're there for them, that you're listening if they need you for anything. You're there.
但支持和倾听非常重要，目的不是让他们感觉好一点，只是让他们知道你在他们身边，如果他们需要你的话，你会倾听的。你就在那里。
Now depending how close that person is to them, the feeling of deep sorrow that comes with grief means that in this moment you need to tread carefully and pay really close attention to the tone and the delivery of your words. You can say something like:
取决于那个人与他们的亲密程度，悲伤伴随着深深的悲伤的感觉意味着在这一刻你需要小心行事，密切注意你的话的语气和表达。你可以这样说：
I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain you're feeling right now. This is just a way to acknowledge their grief and to express your sympathy for them.
对于你失去的，我深表遗憾，我无法想象你现在所感受到的痛苦。这是认同他们的悲伤并表达你对他们的同情的一种方式。
And notice how soft and gentle my tone is? Whilst I was saying it, I didn't look down, I kept my eyes directly on you and that's important too to show that you're being genuine and sincere.
注意到我的语气是多么柔和吗？说这句话的时候，我没有低头，我的眼睛一直看着你，这也很重要，表明你是真诚的。
Now I also think it's important to follow up with some sort of support. For example.
我认为提供某种支持也很重要。比如说。
Tell me about your mother or your father or your friend who passed away. We often think that people don't want to talk when they're going through a hard time but there are often so many happy memories that can make them laugh or smile and remember someone fondly so talking about it could actually help them to feel better or at least offer a little distraction.
告诉我你的母亲或父亲，或者是朋友去世的情况。我们经常认为人们在经历困难时不想说话，但通常有很多快乐的回忆可以让他们开怀大笑，深情地记住某个人，所以谈论它其实可以帮助他们感觉好一点，或者至少分散一点注意力。
You might suggest: Would you like to go for a walk? We don't have to talk about anything, let's just get some fresh air.
你可能会建议：你想出去散散步吗？我们什么都不用谈，就去呼吸新鲜空气吧。
Now this is useful for people who you know would just rather be silent and not talk, that's okay too. So we've just been through six awkward, uncomfortable situations and how to respond to them in English, some of them were more serious and sad, others were relaxed and perhaps a little funny but just make sure you pay attention to the tone and the way each of those phrases were delivered to the listener, really important to focus on those non-verbal visual cues as well with facial expressions and that kind of thing.
这对于你认识的那些只想保持沉默不想说话的人来说是很有用的，那没什么关系。所以我们刚刚看了六个尴尬的、令人不舒服的情况以及如何用英语回应它们，其中一些比较严肃悲伤，另一些比较轻松，也许还挺有意思的，但一定要注意语气和语调，注意每一个短语说给听众的方式，很重要的是要关注那些非语言的视觉线索，还有面部表情等等。
So I really hope you enjoyed the lesson. If you are looking for a few tips on how to say I love you, check out this video here.
希望你喜欢这节课。如果你正在寻找有关如何说我爱你的一些小想法的话，请看一下这个视频。
That can also be quite an awkward situation or an uncomfortable situation where you feel unsure so hopefully there's a few good tips in there. Of course hit the subscribe button right down there and turn on notifications so that you find out when my next video is available.
这也可能非常尴尬的情况，或者可能是让你感到不确定的、不舒服的情况，所以希望你能得到一些好的小提示。当然了，一定要点击下方的订阅按钮并打开通知，以便你可以知道我的下一个视频什么时候做好。
Otherwise, I will see you next week. Bye for now!
不然的话，我们下周见啦。暂时拜拜啦！
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