吸引力有不同的表现形式
Attraction can come in all different forms.
爱就是爱！
Love is love!
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多数时候 我们谈论的是
Most of the time, we talk about romance and attraction
男人和女人之间的浪漫和吸引力
in the context of a man and a woman.
但情况不总是这样
That isn’t always the case.
不幸的是 对LGBTQ人群之间吸引力的研究
Unfortunately, there hasn’t been a lot of research
并不多
into the LGBTQ elements of attraction.
随着时间的流逝
As time goes on,
我们确定更多信息会被发掘出来
we’re Sure that more data will be made available.
但是 眼下
But for the time being,
这里有几个吸引力的标志
here’s a few signs of attraction
我们可以用到LGBTQ人群身上
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that we think applies to LGBTQ couples!
1.瞳孔放大
大量研究表明
Numerous studies have shown that
吸引力会引起瞳孔放大
attraction is linked with dilation of the pupils.
一项研究甚至提到
One study even mentions
同性之间或异性之间是否具有吸引力
that same-sex attraction and bisexual attraction can be observed
可以通过观察瞳孔是否放大来确定
by measuring pupil dilation.
所以 如果你真想看看
So if you really want to see
你的暗恋对象是否也喜欢你
if your crush likes you back,
深情地注视他们的眼睛吧
look deep into their eyes.
眼睛不会撒谎！
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The eyes never lie!
2. 利用小借口接触你
如果某人被你吸引
If someone is attracted to you,
他们很可能会抓住一切机会
they’re probably going to take every opportunity they can
接触你
to touch you.
我们认为 这条规则既适用于异性恋情侣
We feel that this applies to LGBTQ couples
也同样适用于LGBTQ情侣
just as much as it does for heterosexual couples.
一项研究表明肢体接触是一种主要的调情标志
One study stated that touching was a major sign of flirting,
主要表现在问候和告别的时候
mostly when greeting or saying goodbye.
情侣接触的时间越长 他们之间的吸引力越大
The longer couples touched, the higher the attraction.
3. 长久凝视
让我们再回到眼睛的问题上
Once again, we returned to the eyes,
眼睛是心灵的窗户
the windows to the soul.
研究显示
Studies have shown that
保持眼神交流
maintaining eye contact is a major sign
是吸引力和调情的主要标志
of attraction and flirting.
眼神交流的时间越长
The longer someone keeps eye contact,
他们就更有可能被你吸引
the more likely that they’re attracted to you.
眼睛是身体重要的一部分
The eyes are such an intimate part of the body
却和性别或者性身份
but they’re not connected to
没什么关联
any one gender or sexual identity,
这就是把眼睛作为广泛适用的吸引力标志
that’s why this is a universal sign of attraction
而屡试不爽的原因
that often holds true.
4. 展现更多身体部位
当然了 有时候人们就是想穿暴露的服装
Sure,sometimes people just want to wear revealing outfits
但完全没有吸引别人的意思
without trying to attract others…
我们不是说露出皮肤就意味着
We’re not saying that showing skin always means
某人就会被你吸引
that someone is attracted to you, but
但是一项研究发现了一个常见的调情技巧
one study found that a common flirting technique
人们总是在暗恋对象面前展现更多的身体部位
was subtly exposing more of the body to their crush.
举个例子
An example might be
比如无意间卷起袖子
something as innocent as rolling up the sleeves.
这在LGBTQ人群中
Could this be a sign of flirting
也同样适用吗？
that extends to the world of LGBTQ？
我们认为是的
We think so.
5. 害羞一瞥
有时候 很容易发现某些人被你吸引
Sometimes,it’s easy to see that someone is attracted to you,
这全都表现在他们的脸上
it’s written all over their face.
有些人的表现不那么明显
Some are harder to read than others,
但是他们的面部表情都指向一件事
but there are facial expressions that only say one thing,
我对你感兴趣！
I’m interested!
根据一项研究
According to one study,
一个很明显的调情标志是腼腆地一瞥
a big sign of flirting is a coy glance.
这在LGBTQ人群中
This could definitely be a sign
也绝对非常常见
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that is just as common in the LGBTQ world,
因为这种可爱又常见的表情只有一个意思
as it’s a pretty universal facial expression that means the same thing
无论是谁 都是如此
no matter who you are.
6. 自我推销
当我们对某人感兴趣的时候
When we’re interested in someone,
我们会努力让自己呈现出最好的状态
we tend to paint ourselves in the best possible light,
这是自然表现
it’s only natural.
我们想让我们的暗恋对象
We want our crush
看到我们最好的最有吸引力的那一面
to see the best and most attractive side of ourselves.
在心理学世界里
In the world of psychology,
这称作自我推销
this is known as self-promotion
有几项研究将之作为
and a few studies have mentioned it
调情的主要标志
as a major sign of flirting.
这可能是你的LGBTQ暗恋对象对你感兴趣的标志吗？
Could this be a sign that your LGBTQ crush is interested?
我们找不到不是的理由
We don’t see why not.
一位Reddit网友对这个问题有话要说
One redditor has this to say about the matter,
我们通常会在Vibes或其他应用上找艳遇
we like to say we can pick up on vibes and other stuff,
但是老实说 我们就是在问
but in all honesty, we either just ask
我们要么去同性恋酒吧（还是问！）
go to a gay bar (still ask!), or
要么在某款应用上和该社区的其他同志聊天
pick up an app and talk to local gays in the area.
我发现同志们通常会聚在一起
I found there are some social events that
进行一些社交活动
that gays will get together and do stuff such as
比如 每周读书会或者去咖啡厅聊天
weekly book clubs and just coffee shop chats.
总之 问就对了！
Overall it’s really just asking!
这对所有人来说 都是箴言良策
this is actually really good advice for everyone,
而不仅是针对LGBTQ人群
not just LGBTQ people.
如果你真的想知道你的暗恋对象是否也喜欢你
If you really want to know if your crush likes you,
直接上去问吧 没有更好的方法
then just ask, there’s no better way.
我会想身材好 衣品好的男孩微笑
I smile at hot boys who are dressed well,
特别是他们穿亮色衣服或紧身牛仔裤的时候
particularly if there’s bright colors or skinny jeans involved.
如果他们是同志 通常会对我报以同样的微笑
If they’re gay, they’ll usually smile back,
如果他们不是单身 或者对我没兴趣
although if they’re not single or interested,
这个微笑就会比较含蓄
the smile will be somewhat reserved.
这绝对是另辟蹊径
That’s definitely another interesting approach,
看起来 衣着打扮加上微笑
it seems like a mixture of both the outfits
足以让人知道
and smiling is enough to let this person know
某人是否也喜欢他们
whether someone likes them back.
这招看起来对他们很有效
It seems to work well for them.
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