美国人纠结男追女还是女追男吗？
美国人约会都干嘛？美国人怎么界定“恋爱”？
婚车婚房重要吗？今天我们聊聊这些重要的感情问题。
“追”英语怎么说？
大家看了这么多美剧，其中万变不离其宗的主题就是追女生！各种各样“追”的说法你都学会了吗？Date这个词虽然常见，但是不要乱用哦。美国人在恋爱的过程中各个阶段分的很清楚，先是going out with someone或者叫seeing someone，然后才是dating，接着关系更进一步才能说in a relationship，而I love you这句话要等到确立关系且基本稳定之后他们才会说出口。
中国有句老话：男追女隔座山，女追男隔层纱。在这场恋爱的角逐中，女生感觉总是占了上风，所以才会有男性抱怨自己心仪的对象十分“高冷”。在美国，情况也差不多。英语里有个说法叫playing hard to get，就是男方追的很猛，女方也很动心，但是后者还是决定要依然hold住，保持矜持，因为她不想让别人觉得自己很随便。
In general, Chinese think girls should be reserved and shouldn't take the first step: 中国人一般觉得女生应该矜持，不要主动
Some American girls think that way too: 也有美国女生这样认为
A lot of American girls will give guys a hint which makes them in turn ask them out: 美国女生会暗示男生，让男的主动追她们
Hint: 暗示
Some will directly ask a guy out: 也有女生会直接约男生出去
美国人约会去干嘛？
It's all pretty natural when it's starting out: 初期阶段都比较自然
They try to keep it casual at first and won't officially say that it's a date: 双方会比较放松，不会说是跟你出去约会
Keep it low pressure: 这样没什么压力
They won't say "would you like to go on a date with me?" 约人的时候不会用"date"这个词，因为这样会有压力
They will just say "Would you like to grab a coffee with me?""Let's check out a show": 他们会说去喝个咖啡、看个演出、展览这样的活动
They will plan a date activity to do something, rather than just a meal: 约会通常是会去做一个事，一个活动，不是就吃顿饭
This way you can slowly get to know each other:这样大家可以比较自然地慢慢地了解
When a man is going after a woman, he needs to climb over a mountain：男追女，隔重山
When a woman is going after a man, he might think she's too eager：女追男，隔层纱
Eager: 热忱、积极
We think if the girl takes the first step, the guy might not appreciate her as much and might take her for granted: 我们觉得如果女生主动，男的可能比较不会那么珍惜你，会不把你当回事儿
Play hard to get: 做出比较难追的样子
Nice guys finish last: 好人倒霉
A game of push and pull: 忽冷忽热、有进有退
不要想太多
刚刚小编也提到了，在老美心中，dating和seeing each other泾渭分明，然而在中国文化里，似乎“约会”一个词就把所有的阶段都包括进去了。所以有时候美国人跟中国女孩出去压力很大，因为他们觉得只是简单的吃个饭看个展览，只是单纯的going out with the girl，对方心里却可能已经把这当成约会了，更有“如狼似虎”的少女可能已经给他们贴上了“男朋友”的标签。所以遇上老外，真的不要想太多。Don’t read too much into it!
We think if a guy asks a girl out, it's pretty much a date: 我们觉得如果一个男生约女生出去，那基本上这是个约会
There is something between them and they should try to go out a few more times to explore things: 他们之间有些特别的感觉, 应该继续约出去，发展看看
American guys think even if it is a date, it means I'm interested in knowing you, but you shouldn't read too much into it: 美国男生觉得就算是一次约会，这代表我想认识你，但是不要想太多
Don't think too much of it/don't read too much into it: 不要想太多
谁付钱？
男女吃饭谁付钱——这真是一个亘古不变的辩题。男生不付，女生觉得他小气；男生抢着付，女生觉得他看不起她。来了中国多年的老外Spenser最后总结出了一套心得，其精髓就是男方要先“意思一下”，探探风头。”Guys should at least offer to pay.” 如果对方顺水推舟，那你就安心买单；如果对方钱都抽出来摆桌上了，那你们就AA吧。噢对了，如果你跟老外说AA，他们会一头雾水。查字典你可能会查到go dutch，但是这个讲法已经过时了。最地道的说法应该是split the bill。各位女性朋友们，如果你们跟老外出去吃饭要AA的话，可以说“Let’s split the bill.”
American guys will generally pay on the first date: 基本上初次约会，美国男生会买单
If he doesn't even offer to pay, it means he's cheap: 如果他不付，那你遇到了铁公鸡
A guy needs to at least offer to pay: 至少要意思一下
Or maybe he's hinting that you he's not interested anymore: 他不买单的另一种可能，是暗示他已经没兴趣了
But a guy is not expected to pay beyond the first few dates: 但是男生几次约会后，不会再一直买单
有车有房重要吗？
说到追女生，就不能不提到一些比较现实的问题——你有车有房吗？美国女生在乎男生有没有房和车吗？小编觉得这件事主要还是看个人，看家庭。Spenser在节目中吐露心声，表示“ 物质不是那么重要，重要的还是爱情”。你是怎么看的呢？欢迎来我们的微信公众号给我们留言，参与讨论。
Gotta have a house and a car: 要有房有车
Entry ticket: 门票
Materialistic: 物质的
Hopeless romantic: 无药可救的浪漫主义者
Some Americans want to settle down, buy a house and build a family: 有些美国人结婚就想安定下来、买个房、安家立业
But many have different ideas and don't want to be tied down to a mortgage: 但是很多人不想被贷款捆住
There just isn't the same level of cultural pressure to buy a house before you get married: 总之就是没有那么大的文化压力让你买婚房
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